anyways... when you're at a motivational seminar, it feels like you're sitting in on a herbal magic/jenny craig informercial taping. it feels so FAKE. does it really change you? is that what really happened? or are those things just things that happen on a daily basis, but is never noticed because you haven't been told to pay attention to them? i mean, i totally understand you wanting to change yourself in a way that you think may benefit yourself, like if you talk about yourself too much or if you're too emotional or not emotional enough.
think... if i asked you to think about a time where you thought of having a breakdown. what happened then? what went on through your mind? why did it happen? who caused it? how did you feel? how did you control it? or if i ask you to think about how you are as if you were talking to a mirror. would you like that person? what characteristics do you have that you like and dislike? you never pay much attention, because it's how we are built; we're built to not be aware of how we are around others. no, i don't mean it like you act all cute around a boy you like, or you're super shy in front of people but super out going with close friends. i'm talking about your personality. like if you tend to talk about you a lot, or talk about a certain subject.
the seminar i attended was, in short, YOLO. the speaker talked a lot about having breakdowns, and HOW to react to a breakdown, and more specifically, how to AVOID them. he mentioned things like thing of the reasons why you're feeling those feelings, think of the things you can do, think of what you did wrong and what you did right, and then think of solutions. yeah... thanks, captain obvious. it's natural for us to have breakdowns and react to our emotions, and it's natural for us to blame ourself AND others for our emotions.
so in the irony of this post, here are ways you can (hopefully) cope with a breakdown:
- BREAK. DOWN. there's absolutely no shame in having a breakdown. heck, a breakdown might be that thing that helps us recover, and feel better in the end. breaking down is natural. and there is never a stupid reason to break down. ever. don't avoid it.
- DO NOT BLAME IT ON YOURSELF. for whatever the reason is, you are not the blame for being human. breaking down is our minds way of telling us to take a break. all that emotion and thoughts built up has to get filtered out somehow, and well, sometimes that way is having a good cry.
- DO TALK ABOUT IT. don't burden yourself the thoughts you have. tell someone you trust. they will listen, and i promise you that. and if you're afraid, you can always leave me a comment or pop me an email. i'll definitely try my hardest to help you, or i'll just be an ear. bottling up how you feel only makes it worse, and don't you get tired of feeling all that?
- RELAX. after a good break down, relax. let yourself fix itself overnight.
- DO THINGS AT YOUR OWN PACE. don't rush into anything because you think it'll help you in that specific moment. rushing into things might ultimately just cause you to ruin things even more, or it won't do much but start something that can be avoided. taking the time to think and pacing yourself to do things when you want to is probably the only way i can think of to help in any situation. i mean, you didn't learn to walk overnight, right?
i hope this helped! and again, i'm definitely lending my ear to anyone who needs someone to talk to. (:
much love,
yona
